My Crazy Office

My Crazy Office is a weekly workplace podcast dedicated to helping listeners navigate their careers. Executive coach Kathi Elster and career therapist Katherine Crowley combine their expertise to solve both serious and silly situations at work. Join Kathi and Katherine as they answer real workplace questions with solid advice and a side of humor. Do you have someone or something at work that’s driving your crazy? Send your questions to info@mycrazyoffice.co. (All submissions kept confidential.)

Mental Abuse at Work?

Mental abuse in the workplace is more common than you might think. It could be an angry aggressive boss, a mean condescending co-worker, or a group of bullies that band together and target others in the office. An abusive work environment erodes productivity and hurts those involved emotionally, sometimes escalating into making people physically sick.

Here are 5 
signs that abuse is present at the office.
 See if any of these are true for you

  1. There is a 80 – 100% staff turnover every year.
  2. The office is extremely quiet. People have their heads down, and 
rarely make eye contact with supervisors.
  3. You can cut the tension in the air with a knife.
  4. Employees meet and organize outside of work to support one another.
  5. Staff look drained and they call in sick more frequently than in a 
healthy workplace.

If you relate to any of these signs, then abuse is present in your office. You may be suffering in silence or you may be looking for some help. Here are a few suggestions to get you out of your dilemma.

Always actively network for another job so that you are working on a way out.

  1. Try not to take the behavior of the abuser personally: it’s not 
about you. Abusers treat everyone that way.
  2. Understand that the abuser is most likely good at managing up and only abuses those below. That’s why he/she doesn’t get caught.
  3. Exercise after work to rid yourself of the toxic energy as often as necessary.
  4. Participate in an activity that builds your self-confidence.
 Join a task force, volunteer for a good cause, write down your successes every night.
  5. Circulate, do not isolate and suffer in silence. Go out and have 
fun after work.
  6. Get another job a.s.a.p.
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10 Signs That It’s Time to Leave Your Current Boss /Job

  1. Everyone around you is tired of hearing about your situation – they frequently say things like “ Get out of there” “Why are you still at that job?”
  2. Your physical symptoms are no longer symptoms. You are receiving medical treatment for the manifestation of stress in your body.
  3. You cannot get out of bed in the morning. Sunday’s are full of feelings of dreadful anticipation.
  4. You are numbing yourself more than usual with alcohol, painkillers, and unhealthy food, excessive sleeping, isolating from friends and family.
  5. You feel depressed, you see no way to win. Your future looks hopeless.
  6. Your boss does not fulfill your needs or expectations and she/he hits all of your fears.
  7. Your boss is unethical, unreasonable; you and your boss are from different planets.
  8. Your sphere of influence is no longer the winning politically power in your company.
  9. Your protective boss has been replaced with a boss who you are not in favor with.
  10. You have tried to work things out, but nothing has changed for you.
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What Not To Do When You Have a Bad Boss

  1. Avoid – you will come off as uncommitted and uncooperative
  2. Sulk – others will view your conduct as childish and petty
  3. Wish for the boss’s demise – toxic thoughts take up mental space and psychic energy
  4. Gloat over the boss’s failures – you will look like the lesser person
  5. Bad-Mouth – you will come across as the gossip
  6. Confront – a frontal attack will leave you vulnerable to being misunderstood and attacked back
  7. Retaliate or act out – striking back could hurt your reputation, burn bridges, and even get you fired
  8. Shut Out – giving your boss the silent treatment makes you appear unreasonable (No Comments) | Subscribe: iTunes | Soundcloud | Google Play | Sticher | Android | RSS

What’s one thing you can complete today?

In this age of multi-tasking, multi-texting, multi-platforms and constant responding, it can be very difficult to feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of a work day.

Each day may require that you attend several meetings, respond to hundreds of emails, juggle many projects.

One way to help yourself get organized is to simply decide on ONE THING that you need to accomplish each day. Pick one thing — it could be a sales pitch you need to finish or an important email that you want to send. It could be a call you’ve been meaning to make, or a design you want to refine.

Focus on and complete one thing — It will help the rest of your day fall into place. And it will satisfy that part of your mind that needs to see results.

Try it. Pick one thing. Complete it. Check it off the list. Then see how you feel.

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12 Questions To Ask Yourself When Hiring A New Employee

The 12 questions to ask yourself when hiring a new employee

  1. Is this person capable of multitasking and learning at the level we need?
  2. Does this person take negative or constructive feedback from management well?
  3. Does this person have the time management skills required for this job?
  4. Has this person demonstrated that he/she comprehends this position fully?
  5. Can this person take direction? Or is this person a bad listener?
  6. Does this person ask the right questions? Or does this person ask the same questions too often?
  7. Does this person show initiative?
  8. Has this person proved to me that they have a desire to learn the job they are being hired to do?
  9. Does this person have enthusiasm for the work we do?
  10. Does this person have the skills that is required to do this job?
  11. Does this person communicate clearly?
  12. Does this person fit our culture?
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