Sometimes, you may expect something from someone at work, and their failure to deliver creates feelings of resentment.

It might involve something simple like your co-worker greeting you “hello” or your boss saying, “thank you,”

Or perhaps you rush to produce something for the team and no one acknowledges your effort.

Maybe you’re expecting a promotion or a raise, and when it doesn’t come, a big resentment bubbles up inside of you.

It’s fine to have expectations, but if you don’t communicate them to the people who count, you could just be baking resentments.

The next time you find yourself resenting another person at work, consider whether you had an expectation of that individual that he or she failed to fulfill. If so, you may own half of the resentment.

Have you ever met an older man or woman who is so bitter that everything that comes out of their mouths sounds nasty? Well that could be you (or me) in a few years.

Let’s face it, people do unkind things to each other and life can throw us curve balls, but if we allow those incidents to define our outlook on life then the unkind people win.

So I next time I run into you and we are several years older please don’t sound like an old bitter person.

It’s everywhere — music, decorations, jingles, wrapped gifts, advertisements to buy, buy, buy. “Ho Ho Ho!” But what if you feel, “No, No, No!” this holiday season.

Honestly, it is obnoxious to expect people to be happy just because a holiday declares you should be. As a result, this time of year fills many people with anxiety, anger, and despair.

When it comes to this time of year, we all have a decision to make: Either find what you like about this season and make it yours, or stew in resentment until it’s over.

Personally, I like the lights (in dark days) and sending out cards to offer thanks and good wishes. You?