We say that if you’re having a consistently strong negative internal reaction to someone or something at work, then you’re “hooked.” It could be as trivial as a coworker constantly clearing his throat or as weighty as a manger’s verbal attacks. Once you’re hooked, that person’s behavior becomes a constant source of distraction and distress.
Today, consider whether you’re hooked by someone at work. Is there someone who the mere sight of gives you agita? Does the sound of his or her voice jangle your nerves? Do emails from this person sour your day? If so, take a deep breath and know that you can improve the situation.
Start by admitting you’re hooked, then stop waiting for the other person to change. Know that as you change your reaction to this person, you’ll change the relationship.