First there’s anger, then the disappointment, then the anger again. Like our book Working with You Is Killing Me says, take the high road when communicating. I know I read our books, oh right I co-wrote them. But, why is it so hard to always take the high road? Maybe it’s because (if you are like me) it’s so much fun to get even. It takes me a good week to go from angry to cooled off enough in order to get to that high road approach.
It doesn’t seem to matter how hard I pressure myself to get over a relationship it takes me a week. I have to process my feelings, which change daily. I have to process my thoughts which never stop. Once I reach a place of completion everything subsides. I finally have the ability to take a high road approach and communicate in a way that does not burn a bridge with someone that I once cared for.
Relationships are a lot of work, and breaking up in a nice way is worth the week of torture for me. Now, if I can just remember to take the week and process before I open my mouth.