Passive Aggressive behavior is hard to manage because it’s hard to detect, and impossible to confront. Kathi and Katherine tackle a listener’s question about handling a co-worker who talks trash about others behind their backs. They advise a boss who wants to detect passive aggressive employees before they do damage to the team.
Is there someone at work who is able to take credit for every little thing that happens? Is this person great at dropping the names of influential people; eager to announce his or her accomplishments in any public setting? Self-promoters can get under your skin and rattle your last nerve. Their overblown self-importance can really hook you.
Here’s something to consider. Is there something you can learn from this completely irritating person? Of course you don’t want to mimic their behavior, but could you adapt their ability to broadcast success?
You don’t have to become a sell-out or a braggart. You can share your accomplishments in a way that is consistent with who you are – send an email to your supervisor, prepare a positive report for a staff meeting, share the credit for a job well done with your entire team.
The point is to stop expecting your work to speak for itself while you quietly resent the people who happily advertise their wonderful selves. Take a lesson from your company’s shameless self-promoters. Find a way to showcase your accomplishments for others to see.